Last night I was talking to a friend and she told me it was her seven month anniversary with her boyfriend. She told me that even though it has gotten pretty serious, she still hasn't had the courage to tell her parents. She is Italian and he is Vietnamese&Chinese. When I asked her why she is so scared she told me she even brought up the possibility of them being together to her Mom, who in return said "Do you like him?" when my friend replied "yes" her mother said "Well, don't. It will ruin your life."
The fact that her family, especially her mother and her sister, do not approve of interracial dating breaks her heart because she is so close to them. When I asked what she would do if it got serious enough to eventually take the next step and get married she told me, "I wouldn't marry him" and then broke down a little bit more and said "Sometimes I tell myself, okay this can't go very far, you won't be with him for the rest of your life and other times I think about cutting it off with him and I can't imagine doing so."
The only one in her family that does know she is seeing him is her sister, and I figured telling you all some of the things she said would give you an idea of the extent of her situation. Upon finding out, her sister [who isn't old, she is in her 20s] said things like "You are going to ruin your life" "Make sure you wear a condom because asians are dirty" "I can't believe you, you make the family look bad and you make yourself look bad" there was more but those are a few that stand out in my mind.
If someone had a similar situation and could tell me what they did or soemthing like that I'd really appreciate it. She asked me what I did but my family accepted my boyfriend in open arms, so I really don't know what to tell her, but I do want to help.